Simply Talking With Others About Your Dreams

Often we are shy to speak about our dreams for one reason or another.  So we keep our dreams safe in the secrecy of our heads and hearts.  This is a tempting course, but it can constrain our dreams from growing to their full potential.

Think about how much more powerful our dreams become when we speak them out loud, celebrate them, and take responsibility for them.

When other people know our dreams we give them an opportunity to become part of our dreams and we also inspire them to proclaim their dreams.

To role model what I’m saying, I’ll share one of my dreams with you.

This dream of mine will only take a sentence to say and yet I almost don’t want say it for fear of what you might think about my dream. (The fear that often keeps us quiet about our dreams isn’t necessarily rational, but it is there.)

 Ok, here it goes. I have a dream of being a millionaire many times over, a millionaire financially speaking, as well as, a millionaire in body, mind and spirit.

Wow! Now I can breathe a sigh of relief.  My dream only took a sentence to say and now my dream is out there in the world.  (And my dream is not only out there in the world, it is out there in the world in BOLD 14 point font.)

We can literally breathe fresh life into our dreams by proclaiming them out loud to our family, friends and co-workers. 

(And wouldn’t the people who surround us rather hear about our dreams than our complaints anyway?)

And as an amazing bonus, We Inspire the People We Love and Care About to Share Their Dreams!

(How AWESOME is that!)

Game of the Day

Think about one of your dreams.

How can you state your dream simply and clearly?

Do you have a hesitation about sharing this dream with others?

What would it be like to overcome this hesitation?

What would be some of the benefits of sharing your dreams with others?

If you choose to, who would you share your dream with?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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Keeping It Short AND Sweet: In Praise of the Concise Conversation

I love great conversations with friends and family that last for hours, but in our daily lives there isn’t always time for such lengthy interactions.

So here comes the Short AND Sweet Conversation to save the day!  The Short AND Sweet conversation can be a wonderful way of communicating to people that you value them, while at the same time, taking care of any practical matters that may need to be addressed in the conversation.  In addition, the Short AND Sweet conversation respects the reality that you and the person you are conversing with may both be in the middle of very busy days.

Here are six Short AND Sweet Tips for creating a winning Short AND Sweet Conversation:

Concentrate – Focus on what the person is saying so that they feel heard and don’t have to repeat themselves.  Focus on what you are saying so that you stay attuned to the subject of the conversation and don’t stray off into digressions or side stories.

Keep It Polite – An easy way to get involved in a Lengthy AND Unfruitful conversation is by not being polite.  If you are not polite, your Short AND Sweet conversation is definitely no longer sweet and also very likely no longer short.  The person you’re talking with is offended.   You feel bad.  You apologize. The person you’re talking to accepts your apology (or doesn’t).  All of this foolishness takes time and creates drama.  Yuck!

Make Straightforward Requests – Respect the time of the person you’re talking with, as well as your own, by making requests in a clear, concise, and, of course, polite way.

Offer an HONEST Compliment – Go ahead, brighten the day of the person you’re talking to.  You make them feel good and strong, which adds joy to their day and strengthens your relationship to them.

Make Plans for a Future Conversation If Need Be – If it becomes clear that your Short AND Sweet conversation is turning into a Lengthy AND Detailed one, make plans with the person you are talking with to continue the conversation on an occasion when you both have plenty of time.

End On a High Note – Depending on the circumstances, this high note could be a high-five, a hug, well wishes for the rest of the day.  Or use your sense of the conversation to be creative and offer a final gorgeous high note to the conversation that leaves both of you happy as you part ways.

Game of the Day

Notice the Short AND Sweet conversations that you have today.

Hi! This Is A Conversation

I’ve noticed that sometimes lately upon walking into a store, when the sales person says “Hi,” I immediately just ask them for the product I want to buy.

It occurs to me now that this is a bit strange.  Would I do this at a party?  If someone I have never met said “Hi,” would I immediately ask, “Do you know where the food and drinks are?”

Of course not!  This approach is no way to make an acquaintance, let alone begin a friendship.

So why when I walked into the office supply store just an hour ago and one of the people who worked there said “Hi,” did I immediately ask if the office chair I wanted was in stock?

For all I know, the worker (I don’t have the faintest idea what his name is) could have become a great friend.  Instead, I began my exchange with this man in the same way I begin my exchanges with Google, by asking for what I wanted.  If this is the type of exchange I have with Google (no offense Google), why am I having it with people?

I realize that I need to make an effort not to make my Face Time be like my Google Time.  (Gosh, I never thought I would come to a point of writing about Face Time.  I feel so twenty-first century and yet somewhat nauseous all at once.)

When a person we don’t know says “Hi”, it is an opportunity to start a conversation.  (I know.  Social interaction Pre-101, but I think I need a refresher.)

Conversations needn’t be long to be a conversation.  I think one reason we are afraid of beginning a conversation is that we think it could or should go on and on.

A conversation can be short and still celebrate who someone is.  For example in the office supply store, I could have started a short conversation by offering the person assisting me just a simple expression of appreciation.  Something like, “Thanks so much for being here today.  I really appreciate your assistance.”

Interestingly enough, I had just come from the grand opening of a dance studio.  Now if some men have two left feet, I quite possibly have two left feet, to left hands and to two left elbows (can a person have two left elbows?)  At least this is my assessment of my dancing talent in my mind.

Yet, I danced West Coast Swing and Tango.   Was I dancing like a pro, a semi pro, or even an advanced beginner?  No, I was dancing like an extreme beginner.  AND having an advanced amount of fun!

It occurs to me that when we meet someone and only have time for a short conversation, we can dance into that conversation like an extreme beginner.

Will we ever know the perfect way to begin a short conversation with someone we don’t know?  Probably not!   When we meet anyone for the first time, we are learning to dance in conversation with him or her and they are learning to dance in conversation with us.

Each conversation we have with a person we have never met is a dance into an unknown.

Sometimes, we may feel like we have two left elbows, but when we dance in conversation with people we have just met even for only a minute, we are dancing, celebrating that we are human and they are human and the joy of being alive.  And who knows what will happen.  Great friendships and advanced fun can begin with a short conversation.

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Time to practice your dance moves.  Begin a short conversation with at least three people who you would usually have only a transaction with (think people working at the places you shop and eat or people at your place of work who maybe you have never talked to.)  Have advanced fun being an extreme beginner in these conversations.