When You Feel Sick Focus on What You Do Want

Recently, I was deeply inspired by a good friend who had been painfully sick for the past two weeks.  As she talked, I could feel that she was deeply appreciative to be feeling better.  She actually seemed to be basking in her renewed feeling of well-being.

And as for the last few weeks of her life, was she bitter that she had had to endure tremendous pain? Was she angry that she had to take two weeks off work and participating in the activities she loved?  Amazingly not!  Her attitude was quite the opposite.  She was grateful that she had had the chance to catch up on lots of reading and journaling and highly appreciative that so many people had supported her when she was ill. What a refreshing perspective!

When we are physically ill, we almost always have some mental perspective on it.  My perspective whether I have a stuffy nose, a skinned up knee or something more major is almost always, “I don’t want to be sick” and “I don’t want to waste time being sick.”

I doubt I’m at all unique in either of these perspectives.  In fact, I bet those two statements are actually something most of the world would agree upon.

Inspired by my friend’s example, it occurs to me that adding more words to those “I don’t want” statements can powerfully change our perspective on being sick.  The phrase we could add to these “I don’t want” statements might be, “so what I do want is.”  And then we have the opportunity to fill in the blank.   An example of this addition is, “I don’t want to be sick, so what I do want is to be healthy.

When you make the “so what I do want” addition to your thoughts and conversations when you are sick, you immediately begin to turn your thoughts and emotions from being sick towards being well.  This switch motivates you to focus on your method of recovery, on being in good humor (and even having fun) and on being appreciative of the people around you as you recover.

While saying the words, “so what I do want is” and filling in the blank when you are sick doesn’t instantly take away your illness or pain, or substitute for any other medical or healing modality, it does afford you the capacity to see beyond the present circumstance of your illness.  With this capacity, you begin to move your thoughts towards the renewed health that you want and to even enjoy the process.

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Put this blog post in your mental medicine cabinet and take it out whenever you need it.

The Heroism of Saying YES!

The ability to say “YES” is a powerful tool for bringing fun, excitement and joy into lives.

To illustrate what I mean, let’s say we are at Disney Land.  We could walk around all day saying “NO” to going on every single ride, “NO” to stopping in every shop, and “no” to eating at each snack stand.  At the end of the day, how would we feel?  We would be hot, sweaty, tired, cranky and out the price of admission.

If on the hand, we say “YES” to the rides, “YES” to going into the shops and “YES” to eating lunch and snacks, we would leave Disney Land full of feelings of fun, excitement and joy.  In fact, we want to come back tomorrow, the next day, and the next.

In the Disney example, it is easy to see the power and thrill of saying, “YES.”  Yet when it comes to achieving the Beyond-Our-Comfort-Zone Extraordinary Results we want in life, I have found it is often tempting to say “NO!”

Why would we say “NO!” to the excitement and wonder of what we can create?

In a quote that gives me goose bumps every time I read it, Marianne Williamson gives us profound insight into this question.   She states, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous…”

So sometimes we say “NO” to our dreams and what we truly want to achieve.  For example, I’ve wanted to write a blog for years, but kept saying “NO.”

Our “YES’s” move us beyond the fear Williamson is talking about, beyond our comfort zones.

Later on in her quote, Williamson declares, “We are all meant to shine, as children do…” We have the capacity to find the activities we can say “YES” to.

Williamson ends her quote with “And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Every time “we let our own light shine,” we are engaged in a heroic act!

Let us all inspire each other to tend to our light.  Let’s do this by each day seizing the opportunities and engaging in the activities we can give a Heroic YES! to.

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 What can you say a Heroic YES! to today?


Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.