Friday One Minute of Excitement!

What lens are you looking at life through?

Click on the link to watch the video for a one-minute inspirational blast!

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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Feeling Joy and Eagerness Around the Creation of Your Dream

The original title of this post was “From Fear and Frustration Around Your Present Situation To Feeling Joy and Eagerness Around the Creation of Your Dream.”  I shortened the title because it seemed both long-winded and heavy on the “Fear and Frustration” part.  However, I appreciated the former title’s directness because it reflects the truth of the struggle that we sometimes find ourselves in.  Some days it feels like we are gazing at the distant majestic and serene castle of our dreams from the cardboard box of our present lives.  (We might feel like we are living in a cardboard box in terms of our relationships, our work, our health or another area of life.)

Have you ever experienced these days?  These are days when you feel much more inclined to count your failures on all your fingers and toes, instead of counting your blessings.  These are days when instead of making a gratitude list you feel like filling up page after notebook page with FRUSTRATION LISTS.  These are days when your dreams seem like mere fairy tales and your present situation seems to be fairly YUCK.

Have you ever experienced these days?  I sure have!

These days give us a “cardboard box perception” of our lives.

Our present situations are often different from the situations of our dreams and through the lens of our “cardboard box perception” we amplify this difference.   And when we shine our laser focus on this difference, we often naturally get bogged down in frustration, overwhelm, definitely discontentment, and even fear.  This mix of emotions can feel downright miserable.  In an effort to escape this misery, it is tempting to repeatedly say NO to the “cardboard box perception” that we feel ourselves to be living in.

In the act of saying NO, we focus on the “cardboard box perception” that we are saying NO to instead of saying YES! to the castle of our dreams.  The more we dwell on what we are saying NO to the more we focus on that very thing.  It is like we are writing a long essay entitled No I Don’t Want To Live In A “Cardboard Box.”  To write this essay, we have to concentrate on our “cardboard box perception” to find the reasons that we don’t want to live there. 

While tempting and even downright seductive, concentrating on our “cardboard box perception” does not fill us with the wisdom we need to live in the castle of our dreams.

So today, let’s all focus on the castles of dreams and the wonderful feelings that will come from living in our castle.  Let’s live those castle feelings of today!

Game of the Day

What does it feel like to live in the castle of your dreams?

How can you live those castle feelings today?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

From OH NO To OH WOW

I got asked today to be on a radio show.  The subject of the show is wonder.  I instantly became excited.  When the request to be on the show came this morning, it occurred to me that wonder is a natural antidote to frustration and fear.  When we concentrate on the wonder of life, this focus takes our mind off thoughts that cause us frustration and fear.

For example, today I wanted to accomplish what I choose to regard as an insane amount of tasks.  I had a choice, I could either shift into high fear mode and say there was simply no way to get everything on my To-Do list done.   And as a consequence, life would be awful and on and on and on.

Or I could say, “This is interesting that I currently have so much to do that I am really wondering how I will get it all done.”

Just as I was reflecting on the subject of wonder and To-Do list overwhelm, I happened to be in a grocery store checkout line.  The person ahead of me had a ton of stuff in her cart.  AND her seven-year-old son took it upon himself to help out by handing each item to the cashier.

If I had been in a place of fear about getting everything on my To-Do list accomplished, I would have been miserable with the idea that the young kid was moving too slow. The cart was taller than he was, so he had to stretch to reach in the cart to retrieve the items one at a time.

Luckily, I was able to switch my focus from “OH NO!” to “OH WOW!”

From a place of wonder, the kid’s contribution was perfect.  As I watched the young boy, I was moved by the immense pride and joy that he was taking in his work.  I was also touched that both his mother and the cashier were equally thrilled by what he was doing.  They were letting him do this task and feel important, instead of having the attitude that they could accomplish it much faster.

A situation that I could have made into a major “OH NO!” became one of the highlights of my day.

And what more, by taking the opportunity to be in wonder instead of in a fearful hurry, I was able to observe a majestic occurrence, which I am now writing about in this blog post.  And may I point out that writing this blog post was one of the many tasks I had slated for today?

Focusing on what is wonderful is not only is an antidote to fear, but gives us both the material and the happiness to create amazing days.

Game of the Day

The next time you feel an “OH NO” attitude coming on, try shifting to an “OH WOW” attitude.   How does this shift change your experience?

Success Is Not The Same Old Same Old

We want outrageous success in our lives and yet at the same time often resist the newness of even positive change because it represents the unknown.

This struggle can even be seen in our answers to the common greeting, “What’s up?”

In the past when I got this question, I would catch myself answering, “Nothing much.”

What was I really conveying with this response?  Maybe I was conveying that I was highly comfortable in my routine and not looking for any big changes.

Evidently, I wasn’t even looking for an in-depth conversation with the person asking me the question.  (I guess this to be the case because the answer, “Nothing much” pretty much says, “I don’t really have anything of value to talk with you about.  And furthermore, if we do talk for much longer, I can pretty much guarantee that our conversation will be as boring as looking at a computer monitor when it is shut off.”)

The unknown, even if it’s intensely positive, can sometimes bring up feelings of insecurity and FEAR.  (I put fear in all caps in honor of Halloween being this past Monday. Doesn’t fear look spookier than it really is when it is in all caps?)

New success involves creating new routines and participating in life in a new way.   Along with that success the answer to the question, “What’s up?” changes from “Nothing” to “Everything.”

Consider the “Everything” scenario.

Someone asks you, “What’s up?”  And you respond excitedly, “Everything.”   They get excited and ask, “Like what?”  (This person is particularly fond of asking you two-word questions.)

You start talking about every area of your life that you are realizing success and contentment in.  The person you are talking with is a good listener and keeps asking you more questions.  Through this conversation, you begin to realize that in the past six months pretty much everything in your life is UP.  How exciting!

Then you start to get a little concerned.  You begin to contemplate, “Who am I now that success has changed every aspect of my life?”

Part of you panics as you think frantically, “I was so comfortable six months ago.  I knew my routine. Everything was predictable.  Why in the world did I start chasing those crazy dreams that now involve lots of work and are unpredictable?  I miss being able to say ‘Not much’ when someone asks me ‘What’s up?  Those were the good old Not Much Days.”

Then you comfort yourself by thinking, “It is like when I was a kid, and growing out of shoes almost as fast as my folks could buy them.  I was so proud to be growing.  I’m now experiencing great growth through success, so why not be proud, why not savor success?”  (You see your point and with your vivid imagination pat yourself on the back for making such a great point, but part of you frets that along with your success you are beginning to sound like the inspirational posters you used to look at in K-Mart but never bought because you wanted to save your money to buy a Yoda Halloween costume.)

May we all be ready to grow (like our feet when we were kids) into our “Everything” life.

(You are amazing.  I am amazing. We are amazing. Yay!)

Game of the Day

What’s up?

How can you grow into your “Everything” life?