When you are walking down the street and say, “Good Morning” to a stranger passing by, what do you assume that person assumes about you?
Even after all the work I have done to create healthy self-confidence for myself, I noticed this morning while on a walk that when I said “Good Morning” to a person I passed, I assumed that they assumed that I was of low intelligence because of my speech impediment. Does my assumption, in fact, represent the truth of what the people I passed were thinking or anywhere close to it? Upon reflection, I realized that I had absolutely no idea.
What inaccurate assumptions do you assume that others assume about you the moment they meet you?
Maybe we ought to say, “Hi! Glad to meet you. I already assume that you are making assumptions about me and, just so you know, it is going to take you a while to prove that you are not.”
This is craziness!
Rather than enjoying the process of meeting someone, we often assume that we have to disprove assumptions that we assume the person we just met is assuming about us.
(This is lots of assuming and the other person has barely said anything yet!)
Or we could just state flat out what we assume the person we just met is thinking. In my case, I could say, “Hi, I’m Jason! It’s awesome to meet you. And by the way, I already assume that you assume that I’m of very low intelligence because of the sound of my voice. Want to be friends?” (This approach might be slightly awkward.)
If we are going to naturally make assumptions about what people we are just meeting think of us, why not replace our disempowering assumptions with empowering ones?
For example, Daniel instantly assumes that whenever he meets someone, they are making the assumption that he is a goof-off and not professional. He could work to become fully conscious of this assumption and then consciously tell himself when he meets people that they instantly admire him, want to be his friend, and see him as a professional. Of course, Daniel is still making assumptions, but now the assumptions that he is making work in his favor.
What would it be like to assume that when people meet us, they instantly see someone they like, someone they admire, and someone they want to be friends with?
Game of the Day
If you find yourself assuming that people you just have met are making inaccurate or negative assumptions about you:
- Practice becoming fully conscious of these assumptions.
- Practice replacing these limiting assumptions with positive assumptions.
Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker. He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska. He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset. For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.