Trust YOURSELF to Live YOUR Dreams!


One way to approach our dreams is to be partly excited about achieving them, while, at the same time, partly CONCERNED about how achieving them might overwhelm us and make us lose sight of what is most important to us right now.

Yet to move towards our dreams with CONFIDENCE, we want to trust ourselves to be able to discover joy, centeredness, and to really remember THE BEST OF WHOM WE ARE as we achieve our dream circumstances. 

Right now, do you trust the self that you will become as you achieve your dreams?

If not, it may well be that at the present moment you feel like you barely know this person you dream of becoming.

For example, I have realized that I haven’t been allowing myself to trust the multimillionaire I dream of becoming.  I have been telling myself things like “When I’m rich, I suddenly won’t have time for the activities I love like yoga and going for amazing walks.” (Many would observe that becoming wealthier would probably afford me more time to do what I love.)

But our CONCERNS about achieving our dreams aren’t necessarily LOGICAL.  

Basically, I have been worried that in the process of making amazing amounts of money, I will lose touch with whom I truly am and what I truly love to do.  I haven’t yet TRUSTED MYSELF as a person of great financial wealth, so I have found all kinds of ways to do things other than become a multimillionaire. (In fact, I could write a lengthy book on the things I have chosen to do other than become a multimillionaire.)

A key to achieving our dreams may well be developing comfort and trust with the person we dream of becoming.

You can begin today to think about the person you dream of becoming.  Introduce your PRESENT SELF to YOUR DREAM SELF.  Hang out!  Have a blast!  Get to know each other. Use your imagination to develop COMFORT with your DREAM SELF.

You can begin to see the person you dream of becoming as enjoying their dream circumstances, while at the same time, making decisions to also stay connected to what you most love now.

In your imagination, you can begin teaching your dream self to RESPECT your core values.

At the same time allow the conversation to be mutual.  Allow your dream self to begin teaching you about ENJOYING and EXPANDING into your DREAM CIRCUMSTANCES.

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What is your next step in developing a vibrant friendship with the person you dream of becoming?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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Being Confidently Alone

I’ve noticed that at points in the past, I have almost wanted a Siamese twin so that I wouldn’t have to be alone.  Now that I reflect upon this wish, I see that being connected at the hip would sharply reduce my freedom.  Think of it- having to agree with someone before you could do something as simple as getting out of bed or putting your clothes on.

Sometimes when we fear being lonely, it is tempting to want to become emotional Siamese twins with other people, so that we don’t have to experience feelings of loneliness.  Deciding to make ourselves into an emotional Siamese twin of others seriously reduces our freedom, our ability to explore all life has to offer and even our ability to authentically choose the company of others.

I currently happen to be single and live on my own, so I have been developing a set of skills, which I like to call the skills of being Confidently Alone.

Nurturing the skills of being Confidently Alone can give a person freedom no matter their relationship status or their living situation.  I brainstormed a short list of the freedom that learning to be Confidently Alone can afford a person:

  • The freedom to do any activity that appeals to you, even if no body is available or wants to do it.
  • The freedom to remove yourself from people or social situations that don’t reflect your values or bring you joy.
  • The freedom to CHOOSE to be alone when you want.
  • The freedom to CHOOSE to be single when you want.
  • Enjoy the freedom to really CHOOSE to be with people when you are with them.
  • The freedom to live without dread that people might one day leave you.

And here is a short list of tips that I have found useful when cultivating the skills of being Confidently Alone:

  • Look for opportunities to be Confidently Alone.  Notice times when you want to do something and no one else does.  Instead of choosing not to do the activity, choose to do it Confidently Alone.
  • Focus on the present moment and the activity that you are doing when you are Confidently Alone.
  • Give yourself the gift of having fun when you are Confidently Alone.  It is a myth that people can only have fun when they are with other people.  Disprove it for yourself.
  • The more you practice being Confidently Alone the more skilled you will become at this practice.

May we all experience the freedom to be Confidently Alone and through this freedom, experience a new level of freedom in connecting with others.

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What is your next step in developing the skills to be Confidently Alone?

Do You Have a Unicorn Horn Secret?

Pretend for the next few minutes that I have a unicorn horn growing out of the center of my head.  (Please bear with me.  It’s a big step for a grown man to talk about a unicorn horn in his blog.)

Now pretend that when I talk to people, I never acknowledge that I have a unicorn horn growing out of the center of my head.  Furthermore, I become defensive and change the subject when people who are just getting to know me comment on my unicorn horn.   And if they inquire how I feel about having a unicorn horn or ask for any explanation of the medical condition that caused my horn, I make it obvious that they have offended me.

Since, I react in this way at any mention of my unicorn horn, soon nobody speaks to me about my horn, not family, not friends.  Even acquaintances who have made the mistake of inquiring about my horn once, never speak to me about it again.

People are only willing to get so close to me.  (How close can you really get to someone who refuses to trust you enough to talk with you about the unicorn horn growing out of the center of his head?)

I never know what people really think of my horn.  Maybe they think it is the height of fashion and pray that they will wake up with one growing out of the center of their head tomorrow.  Maybe, they think I would feel better about life without the horn and know a professional to refer me to who removes unicorn horns.

Now remember this unicorn horn stuff isn’t autobiographical.  (If you were about to call Guinness, you can hang up the phone.)

However, I have a unique feature that is like a unicorn horn in that there is no way to hide the reality of it when I speak.

For years, I refused to talk about my speech impediment and made it an awkward conversation, to say the least, when people tried to talk to me about it. When I finally did begin talking with people about the speech impediment (my Unicorn Horn Secret) I soon discovered that no one thought my speech impediment was nearly as big of a deal as I thought it was.  I learned to my surprise that some people actually even find the way I speak cool.

By talking freely about my Unicorn Horn Secret, I also opened up a way for people to suggest that I go back to speech therapy, which I hadn’t done since grade school.  Following their advice, I went back to a speech therapist and after about three or four sessions, she said that I had accomplished what I needed to accomplish and didn’t need to come back to see her.  (When I was trying to keep my Unicorn Horn Secret, I had feared that if I ever went back to speech therapy, I would be going once a week for the rest of my life.)

These were the wonderful benefits of finally talking about my Unicorn Horn Secret.  However, by far the biggest benefit of talking freely about my Unicorn Horn Secret is that people now find it much easier to be around me and connect with me because I am not trying to hide and not tell the truth about what is obvious.

Now my Unicorn Horn Secret, that for so long I refused to talk about, has become part of my “Limitations To Extraordinary Results” message.    As a professional speaker, I am now proud to share this message and my Unicorn Horn Secret with audiences both big and small.

Our Unicorn Horn Secrets can become some of our greatest assets once we find the courage to talk freely about them.  We then have a pathway to open up to the idea that the way we view our Unicorn Horn Secrets can transform from a source of shame to a source of strength.

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Do you have a Unicorn Horn Secret?

What would it be like to talk freely about your Unicorn Horn Secret?

What would it be like to transform your Unicorn Horn Secret from a source of shame to a source of strength?

What is your next step?

Quiet Confidence

Ultimately, it is up to each of us to decide to give ourselves the gift of taking responsibility for our life and declaring our worth.

My father would call this gift of standing up and stating our worth quiet confidence. This is the confidence to take responsibility for our talents, and for all we have to contribute to the world.

While we needn’t become loud and boastful about whom we are, we can seize the opportunity to communicate our worth to the world through our words and actions.  As we give ourselves this gift of quiet confidence, we also give this gift to everyone around us.

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What does it look like to give yourself the gift of quiet confidence?