PREPARE For Your Dreams to Come True

Think about this important question:

Are you prepared for your dreams to come true?

If you think like me, your first response to this question is “Of course, why wouldn’t I be! My dreams are my dreams after all.”

Now think about another question:

If your dreams all suddenly came true in the next 15 minutes, would you be prepared to fully embrace them?

I’m realizing that the honest answer to this second question is often more complicated for people, myself included, than a simple “YES!”

Realizing our dreams whether it is to make lots of money, develop new relationships or achieve some other big goal will definitely change the circumstances of our lives (sometimes radically).  Part of us is programmed to be concerned about change (even very positive change) because it represents unpredictability and the departure from the safety of our stable routines. These concerns can sap our excitement about our dreams and our motivation to achieve them.

Discovering our concerns about our dreams coming true can be exciting and joyful work because navigating through our concerns is like moving past mile markers on the way to achieving our dreams.

With that in mind, these are four concerns that may come up as you move towards achieving your dreams:

1. Simply talking with others about your dreams.

2. Fear and frustration around your present situation in relation to your dream situation.

3. Feeling unworthy of your dreams coming true.

4. Trusting the person you will become as you realize your dreams.

It can be very confusing to get in touch with our concerns about our dreams coming true.

Yet, I’ve discovered that getting in touch with these concerns is the first step in working through them and in this way actively preparing for our dreams to come true.

This is cause for celebration!!!

Game of the Day

Think about one of your dreams and how good it will feel to realize that dream.

Now think about any concerns that come up as you contemplate the changes in your life that will take place as you realize that dream.

Acknowledge these concerns as natural.

What are some ways you could work through these concerns so that you are free to say a resounding “YES!” to your dream?

Congratulations! You just took a little time to prepare for your dreams to come true!

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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Brush Up On Your Own Brilliance

We spend a few minutes in the morning and at night brushing our teeth.  Why not super charge this time by looking into a mirror that reflects your best self?

For much of my life, I treated the bathroom mirror as something to avoid eye contact with and ignore.  As I brushed my teeth, I would walk around the bathroom or gaze down at the sink (as if what I might see in the sink was somehow more important than what was awaiting me in the mirror.)

I was basically avoiding eye contact with myself.  (This habit didn’t do much for my appearance.  Let’s just say that I have had some bad hair months and even an occasional bad hair YEAR.)

Have you ever avoided eye contact with yourself?

Now think of your good friends.  Can you imagine making a habit of avoiding eye contact with them?  This would be somewhat odd to say the least!

I’m proud to announce that recently my mirror and I had a relationship break-through.  And we have sticky notes to thank.  Who would have thought?  What happened is I started writing declarations on sticky notes that reflect the power of my best self and then lining my mirror with these declarations.  For example, one of the sticky notes on my mirror says, “I intend that ALL of my relationships around money be ones of joy.”  Another says, “I’m amazing and what people see in me is my brilliance.”  A third says, “My voice is sexy and perfect.”

These celebrations on a sticky note are powerful because they reflect the best of who I can be today and, at the same time, challenge the limiting views that I have had about my life in the past.

What are some declarations that you could put on sticky notes that would reflect the best of who you can be today and, at the same time, challenge your limiting views about your life from the past?

Now I must say that my mirror immediately warmed up to the attention that I was showering upon it and started reflecting back my own brilliance.  My mirror and I are suddenly in bliss and the relationship is so mutual. (But then again, a relationship with a mirror is probably always mutual.)

I leave the center of the mirror clear so I can see the smiling face of the star of the show – me.  For most of my life, I would’ve thought it incredibly vain to think, let alone write, that I’m “the star of the show.”

But think about it, if you are not the star of your own life, who is?

You can build a relationship of bliss with your mirror.  And it is SO quick and easy.  As you are inspired simply write down declarations of your best self and outline your mirror with them.  (If you have housemates, invite them to get in on the game, so that you each have some sticky notes on the mirror.

Then in the precious minutes when you brush your teeth, read your notes and get a super-charge from reflecting upon them and feeling the power of your own brilliance.  Then look at yourself, the star of your own life, and practice getting a super-charge from reflecting upon the amazing person that you are and the amazing life you lead. 

I say practice, because like with many great friendships, your super-charged friendship with your super-charged mirror can take some time to cultivate.  But brushing up on your own brilliance is well worth it!

Game of the Day

How do you feel about creating a brilliant relationship with your mirror?

What is your game plan?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Making Assumptions About What Others Assume (About You)

When you are walking down the street and say, “Good Morning” to a stranger passing by, what do you assume that person assumes about you?

Even after all the work I have done to create healthy self-confidence for myself, I noticed this morning while on a walk that when I said “Good Morning” to a person I passed, I assumed that they assumed that I was of low intelligence because of my speech impediment.  Does my assumption, in fact, represent the truth of what the people I passed were thinking or anywhere close to it?  Upon reflection, I realized that I had absolutely no idea.

What inaccurate assumptions do you assume that others assume about you the moment they meet you?

Maybe we ought to say, “Hi! Glad to meet you.  I already assume that you are making assumptions about me and, just so you know, it is going to take you a while to prove that you are not.”

This is craziness!

Rather than enjoying the process of meeting someone, we often assume that we have to disprove assumptions that we assume the person we just met is assuming about us.

(This is lots of assuming and the other person has barely said anything yet!)

Or we could just state flat out what we assume the person we just met is thinking.  In my case, I could say, “Hi, I’m Jason! It’s awesome to meet you.  And by the way, I already assume that you assume that I’m of very low intelligence because of the sound of my voice.  Want to be friends?”  (This approach might be slightly awkward.)

If we are going to naturally make assumptions about what people we are just meeting think of us, why not replace our disempowering assumptions with empowering ones?

For example, Daniel instantly assumes that whenever he meets someone, they are making the assumption that he is a goof-off and not professional.  He could work to become fully conscious of this assumption and then consciously tell himself when he meets people that they instantly admire him, want to be his friend, and see him as a professional.  Of course, Daniel is still making assumptions, but now the assumptions that he is making work in his favor.

What would it be like to assume that when people meet us, they instantly see someone they like, someone they admire, and someone they want to be friends with?

Game of the Day

If you find yourself assuming that people you just have met are making inaccurate or negative assumptions about you:

  1. Practice becoming fully conscious of these assumptions.
  2. Practice replacing these limiting assumptions with positive assumptions.

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Happiness After Making a Mistake

A few weeks ago, I was having a nice and relaxing drive on my way to yoga.  This all changed at a stoplight.  When I stopped at the red light, I thought the on-coming car was far enough back that I decided to turn right.  As soon as I turned, it was clear that the on-coming car did not at all agree with my assessment.  They sounded their horn as they followed me.   Then when I parked a few blocks beyond the stoplight, they honked again and gave me gestures of notable disapproval.  It was clear that they thought I had made a major mistake in turning the corner too close in front of them and I, after reflecting upon my decision, agreed with their assessment.

Mistakes can lead us to mistake our own identity.  Instead of a brilliant person who has happened to make a mistake, we can let the mistake alter the way we view ourselves.

How do you feel when you make a mistake?

We know to learn from our mistakes.  But natural feelings that might arise can hinder this learning process.  (And make us feel miserable at the same time.)  Along with shock and confusion, feelings of guilt, frustration and self-lack can come when we dwell on our weakness after making a mistake.  These feelings, though natural and sometimes very tempting to cling to, most likely do not aid us in our process of learning from the mistake and definitely do not help our peace of mind.

We probably learn best when we are relaxed, happy and willing to expand our knowledge.  So after we make a mistake, restoring our happiness, concentration and willingness to expand (as soon as we are able) is an important step.  Then from this place of clarity, we can ask ourselves questions like, “What can I learn from my mistake?” and  “How can my mistake help me and other people to do things in a different way in the future?”

We are extraordinary people.  Sometimes extraordinary people make mistakes.  With practice, we can teach ourselves to focus on our extraordinary nature even as we deal with the consequences of our mistakes and learn the wisdom that our mistakes have to teach us.

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Be a Valentine’s Day Hero

I think we ought to celebrate the Civil Rights activist Rosa Parks as a Valentine’s Day Hero and I’ll tell you why.  Wikipedia describes the act of heroism that Rosa Parks is commonly remembered for by stating, “On December 1, 1955 in Montgomery, Alabama, Parks refused to obey bus driver James F. Blake’s order that she give up her seat to make room for a white passenger.” *

We know who Rosa Parks is because she was willing to claim her seat and her importance.  She silently said a Heroic Yes to her own worth.  By claiming her importance, she offered a new level of freedom to the world.  Rosa Parks once said, “I would like to be remembered as a person who wanted to be free…so other people would be also free.” **

Rosa Park sets a vivid example of how profoundly important self-love is.

By truly loving all that you are, you free yourself from the shackles of self-doubt and self-hate.

This Valentine’s Day claim your importance and your seat in the world.  Be your own Valentine first.

Then you can truly give your Valentines to others because your Valentines are full of your love.

When you say, “I love you,” that “I” is priceless.   If you value the “I” that is you as priceless, the “I” that you give when declaring, “I love you” is truly worth more than mountains of diamonds and gold.

Rosa Parks’ self-love and recognition of her priceless value still blesses the world today.

Loving ourselves is truly one of the most profound gifts that we can offer to the people we love and to the world this Valentine’s Day.

 Game of the Day 

How are you going to claim your importance and your seat in the world today?

How will you bask in your love for yourself?

How will you offer this love to others?

 

 * http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosa_Parks

** http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/r/rosa_parks.html

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

The One Side of the Mirror Over Which We Have Control

A few days ago, I observed a guy asking for money on the street.  Part of his sign said, “I’m Ugly.”  I felt for him and those feelings, as well as the feeling that he had to stand on the street with a sign to make ends meet.

To varying degrees, I have noticed that we attract reflections of who we believe ourselves to be into our lives.

When we stand in front of the mirror, what comes back to us is an echo of who are.  If I suddenly put on a cap, the person in the mirror suddenly puts on a cap.  Likewise, if I change the way I view myself, the world will, in some way, mirror this change back to me.  This is the simple language of mirrors and of life.

We intuitively know this, yet it is tempting to focus on changing or trying to manipulate the reflection in the mirror instead of focusing on our attitudes towards ourselves.

After I saw the guy standing on the street with the sign, I started wondering how often I have thought and felt the words “I’m Ugly,” or “I’m Not Good Enough” or something of the like.  I never made such a sign but I felt it through and through.  At those times, it’s almost as if I held up an Agonizing Invisible Sign of self-doubt and pain.

But there is awesome news!  Want to hear it?  If we can create invisible signs of self-doubt and pain, we can also create Magnificent Invisible Signs of confidence, self-love and joy.

Imagine walking into a business meeting with the invisible sign, “I’m Amazing” or walking into a party with an invisible sign, “I’m Full of Joy and Confident.”

We are magnificent people.  We deserve to hold up magnificent invisible signs. And we deserve to see the world reflect that magnificence back to us.

Game of the Day

Today notice the invisible signs that you are holding up.

How could you rewrite those signs to celebrate your magnificence?

Notice people who reflect your magnificent signs and become their friends because you reflect their best and they reflect your best.


The Biggest Bully I Have Ever Run Across

Who is the biggest bully you have ever run across?

When I consider this question, I have to humbly say that the answer is “me.”

I say this not because I’m a bully to other people.  In fact, I consider myself to be just the opposite.

I say that I am the biggest bully I have ever run across because when I’m in a certain mood, I will pick on myself, call myself names, and just be all around down-right mean to myself.

Have you noticed times when you bully yourself?

I guess a more polite way to say this is “we are our own worse critics.”  HOWEVER, I don’t know about you, but my own worse critic often seems like Internal Bully.  And to make matters worse there is nowhere to go to avoid the situation when my Internal Bully is doing his bullying because, well, my Internal Bully is part of me.

Maybe the first step in dealing with the part of ourselves that can be a Big Internal Bully is to realize that, just like negative attention from another person who is bullying us, when we give ourselves negative attention, it hurts.

Giving ourselves negative attention can be very seductive because it can come under the guise of motivating ourselves towards self-improvement.  However, we know that negative attention is not an effective teaching style.  We don’t tolerate it in our education system, so why do we tolerate it when from our Internal Bully?

Understanding that you have little interest in giving yourself negative attention and a great interest in giving yourself positive attention is crucial when you encounter your Internal Bully.

 The second step is to notice when your Internal Bully is up to his or her shenanigans. Think about what bullies do—distort, outright lie, name call, makes lots of noise and threaten.  Internal bullies are capable of all of these underhanded maneuvers (and unfortunately much more).  Become skilled at catching your Internal Bully red-handed in the act of bullying.  (Note – If your Internal Bully is anything like mine he or she will have a wide variety of shenanigans, some obnoxiously blatant and others sinisterly subtle.)  (Another note – I like using the word shenanigans.)

Once you acknowledge that your Internal Bully is in action, the third step is to ask yourself if there is a nugget of truth, which you can use in a constructive manner, in what your Internal Bully is communicating.  Sometimes there will be a useful nugget and other times your Internal Bully will just be bullying.

The final step is, now that you are on to how your Internal Bully is operating, to CHOOSE to focus your attention on that which brings you joy, self-confidence and peace.

Game of the Day

What are your Internal Bully’s favorite ways of harassing you?

What are you going to do the next time that your Internal Bully starts giving you negative attention?