Our feelings communicate through what we do and often come to be felt by a community extending far beyond us, even to people we will never officially meet.
I believe that our happiness is one of the greatest gifts we can give others. Others feed on and are nourished by our happy energy.
(Now, Jason, is that any way to begin a blog? Can I give a gift of reality? It sounds like you are frolicking in some utopian, sugar-coated, obnoxiously bright-colored land of FLUFF.)
Thank you voice in the ( ), you always keep me honest. Let me give you a concrete example.
Say you are given a choice between two different elegant seven-course meals. The waiter tells you the description of each meal and they sound exactly the same.
You say, “I don’t get it. Both options you described are identical.”
The waiter grins and says, “Not quite, Meal # 1 is being prepared by a chef who’s really happy with how his day is going.”
You ask, “What about Meal # 2?”
The waiter offers, “Meal # 2 is being created by a chef who happens to be bitter, angry, upset and downright sad with how his day is progressing.”
You consider this and ask, “Which chef has more experience?”
“Good question,” the waiter exclaims, “both chefs are very creative and have comparable skill levels.”
Would you choose Meal #1 or Meal #2?
Neither chef has ever met you, AND THE FEELINGS THEY ARE PRESENTLY FEELING HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, yet how they are feeling could well have an impact on the quality of your food.
(So the chef having a bad day prepares an awful meal for me. So what? I have had some bad tasting food before and I survived. How could his mood affect the people he has never met?)
Good question, ( )! Say you choose Meal #2 and now are frustrated and even downright angry at how poor your meal tasted. So you tell the manager, who apologizes and gives you a lousy five dollar coupon off to be used the next time you dine with them.
Now you’re really mad because you had expected the manager to give you this meal free, plus a coupon for an additional free meal.
Then you run some errands and are cranky with the bank teller, the grocery store clerk, the lawn mower repairman, and the gal at the hardware store.
At the end of the workday, they all go home and complain about having such a cranky customer and it just goes on and on.
And it all started because a chef working behind the scenes in a kitchen was having a bad day.
(Of course, I would just let the bad food and the manager’s response go, and be extravagantly nice to all the rest of the people I interacted with that day.)
That’s so good, ( ). But do you see that many people might not choose your approach, and instead carry the chef’s bad mood that appeared in his food with them through the rest of their day?
(Yes, I see how it works. I guess our unhappiness really does affect others, even possibly people we will never actually meet. But it still sounds a bit cheesy.)
I know, ( ). It does. But in practice I’ve found it to be very true.
And the opposite is true, too. When we choose to create happiness in our lives, that happiness can ripple out to touch people we will never even meet.
(It’s truly phenomenal how powerful our moods are.)
Say ( ), you remind me of a Muppet like Grover. Can I start to call you Grover?
(Now Jason, I am practically agreeing with the point you are trying to make. Don’t push your luck!)
Game of the Day
When you are happy, how can you best appreciate the impact your happiness has on the world?
When you are experiencing a time that is more difficult like it was for the chef preparing Meal #2, how do you handle that situation in a way that both respects your feelings and at the same time respects those around you?
Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker. He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska. He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset. For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com