How Can You Use The Money You Have TODAY To Create your Dreams?

Have you ever had the thought, “I HAVE TO WAIT to do what I dream of doing until I have more money?

Me too!  It’s tempting to wait until we have MORE MONEY, and then to go about financing our dreams.

The neat thing I’ve slowly discovered is that many dreams don’t require vast amounts of money.   This type of dream instead requires creatively using the money we have to turn it into reality.

For example, if you had asked me seven years ago how much I would have to pay to feel magnificently healthy in mind, body and spirit, I would have said, “Millions of dollars, if it’s even possible.”  And since I didn’t have millions of dollars, I thought, “I CAN’T have my dream of enjoying magnificent health.”

However, I discovered my dream of having amazing overall health through participating in activities such as Hatha Yoga, Laughter Yoga, Landmark Education and receiving massages.

AND THESE ACTIVITIES ALL ENDED UP BEING WITHIN MY BUDGET!

In fact, I now go to a yoga studio, Pilgrimage of the Heart Yoga, which has a vast number of classes every week and amazing teacher after amazing teacher.  I pay $65 a month for unlimited yoga classes in San Diego, CA.  Yes, I said $65 a month, not $650 a month.  And the $65 a month is well within my budget.

Often our dreams don’t require so much money as they do our participation.  What makes my yoga membership an EVEN BETTER DEAL is that I go to between 10 and 15 classes a week.  The more I participate in my dream of amazing overall health, the better deal my unlimited membership becomes.  Amazing!

At this point in the post, a reader, who we will call Cindy Louise, might say, “Hey, Mr. California Yoga Dude, that’s all fine and dandy about your yoga stuff, but I dream of owning a mansion. Please find me a mansion for $65 a month.”

I would say,  “You definitely have a great point Cindy Louise.  Those sixty-five-buck-a-month-mansions aren’t all they are cracked up to be.”

Then I would ask Cindy Louise what feelings she is seeking in owning a mansion.  After careful consideration, she might say in owning a mansion she is seeking the feelings of safety, beauty, peace and joy.   But at this point in her career, she can only afford an apartment.  Then I would suggest that she looks for an apartment that embodies the feelings she is hoping to find in a mansion by searching for an apartment building that is beautiful, that is on a quiet and peaceful street and an apartment where she feels joy as she tours it.

Granted the apartment that Cindy finds wouldn’t be the physical reality of the mansion she dreams of owning, but the feelings that her dream evokes can be present in the apartment she decides to rent.  And while she is renting, Cindy Louise can work towards her dream of earning enough money to buy an actual mansion.

If you’re up for an AMAZING GAME, start to see your money situation as an invitation to create, participate, and feel your dreams TODAY, instead of viewing your current financial situation as a reason to defer living your dreams until someday when you have more money.

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Think of a dream you have that you have been putting on the back burner because it seems to require money beyond what you can afford.

Is there an inexpensive way to afford this dream that you haven’t considered yet? (Like I found with my yoga membership.)  Have FUN asking around and THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX as you answer this question

Does realizing your dream require your increased participation, rather than simply more money?  (Like I also found with my yoga membership.)

If your dream involves purchasing something that’s really expensive (Like Cindy Louise’s mansion)  (And there’s no $65 a month deal insight), what feelings are you seeking in owning this expensive object?

While working to afford this expensive object, can you find a less expensive alternative that evokes feelings similar to the ones you are seeking in owning the expensive object?  (Like Cindy’s apartment.)

How can you use the money you have TODAY to create your dreams?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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Choose Your Level of Participation With Your Cravings

So often when I’m in the midst of one of my cookie cravings, I have such a strong desire for that next bite that I feel powerless not to take that next bite.  For example, there are these monster cookies at a local bakery that I often (read ALMOST DAILY) have a strong craving for.  When I bite into these soft, perfectly sugary cookies, it’s as if CRAVING MOMENTUM has over-taken me.

At times, we feel that we have no other options than to give into our cravings.  This can be an overwhelming feeling because we feel trapped in acting a certain way, trapped in giving into CRAVING MOMENTUM.

I’m prone to eat two cookies really fast without much thought, losing sight of the fact that I’m CHOOSING to take THE NEXT BITE and then CHOOSING to take THE NEXT BITE and then CHOOSING to take THE NEXT BITE.

When I stop to think about it I realize that in fact I’M CHOOSING to take many consecutive bites.

NOW recognizing that I’m choosing to take the next bite of cookie doesn’t automatically mean that I will choose to stop taking bites of cookie.  I might still CHOOSE to take bite after bite of cookie.   But if before each bite, I discipline myself just enough to pause for a second to recognize that I CHOOSE to take that next bite, suddenly I have more control and power over what I’m doing.

We feel powerless around our cravings whereas our CHOICES give us freedom.  Once we realize our cravings are in fact a collection of many CHOICES, we can CHOOSE to engage in the activity we had called a craving or we can CHOOSE not to engage in this activity.  The CHOICE is suddenly up to us because WE HAVE GIVEN OURSELVES THE POWER to CHOOSE.

When we put ourselves in charge of our lives, we give ourselves the opportunity to make CHOICES  I’m not saying that giving yourself a CHOICE automatically makes it easy to quit a habit you have wanted to quit.

(In fact, I’m still CHOOSING to participate with my craving for those monster cookies.)

But realizing that you have a CHOICE suddenly puts you in the driver’s seat of your CRAVING MOMENTUM TRAIN. You put yourself in the position where you can realize that you have the freedom to make decisions about your level of participation with your craving.

This realization gives you the option of eventually CHOOSING to no longer participate in your craving.

My level of participation with my monster cookie craving is my CHOICE.  Your level of participation with your craving is your CHOICE.  We are THAT POWERFUL!

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How will you CHOOSE to use the ideas in this post?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

When You Feel Sick Focus on What You Do Want

Recently, I was deeply inspired by a good friend who had been painfully sick for the past two weeks.  As she talked, I could feel that she was deeply appreciative to be feeling better.  She actually seemed to be basking in her renewed feeling of well-being.

And as for the last few weeks of her life, was she bitter that she had had to endure tremendous pain? Was she angry that she had to take two weeks off work and participating in the activities she loved?  Amazingly not!  Her attitude was quite the opposite.  She was grateful that she had had the chance to catch up on lots of reading and journaling and highly appreciative that so many people had supported her when she was ill. What a refreshing perspective!

When we are physically ill, we almost always have some mental perspective on it.  My perspective whether I have a stuffy nose, a skinned up knee or something more major is almost always, “I don’t want to be sick” and “I don’t want to waste time being sick.”

I doubt I’m at all unique in either of these perspectives.  In fact, I bet those two statements are actually something most of the world would agree upon.

Inspired by my friend’s example, it occurs to me that adding more words to those “I don’t want” statements can powerfully change our perspective on being sick.  The phrase we could add to these “I don’t want” statements might be, “so what I do want is.”  And then we have the opportunity to fill in the blank.   An example of this addition is, “I don’t want to be sick, so what I do want is to be healthy.

When you make the “so what I do want” addition to your thoughts and conversations when you are sick, you immediately begin to turn your thoughts and emotions from being sick towards being well.  This switch motivates you to focus on your method of recovery, on being in good humor (and even having fun) and on being appreciative of the people around you as you recover.

While saying the words, “so what I do want is” and filling in the blank when you are sick doesn’t instantly take away your illness or pain, or substitute for any other medical or healing modality, it does afford you the capacity to see beyond the present circumstance of your illness.  With this capacity, you begin to move your thoughts towards the renewed health that you want and to even enjoy the process.

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Put this blog post in your mental medicine cabinet and take it out whenever you need it.

Instead of Arguing with Your Bad Habits

When we enter a dark room, we simply think, “I’ll switch on a light.”  We don’t usually think, “I’ll switch on a darkness killer.”

Yet this is often what we do with our habits that frustrate us.  We focus on quitting the darkness, instead of kindling the light.  We concoct a bad habit killer, a way to rid ourselves of the habit we dislike, instead of focusing on creating and maintaining a new practice to replace the bad habit.  (Do you ever wonder what “bad habits” actually look like?  Maybe, they are like the outlaws in the Old Westerns with holsters and creepy red bandanas to hide their faces. The red bandanas make them REALLY BAD HABITS.)

Luckily, there are ways of dealing with these outlaws!

For example, a month ago I wrote a blog post  on how I routinely overate sweets when they were in my apartment.

I had done this for years.  Over those years, I kept trying to quit the darkness of my overeating.  I kept telling myself things like “I don’t want to overeat;” “I shouldn’t overeat,” and the like.   And still time and time again, I would overeat.

Finally, I switched on the light around this habit, which meant creating a new practice.  (I decided I didn’t want to mess with that crude red bandana dude anymore!)

I observed that I love eating treats. I find it wonderful to eat treats and choose to derive great joy from eating treats.  I notice that eating treats literally lights me up.

So then I wondered, how could I maintain the light of eating treats and yet leave the darkness I find from overeating at home?

The new practice that I came up with was to make the consuming of every treat an occasion by making a special trip specifically to buy it, whether it’s a candy bar or a cookie (or more likely two).

This way I’m attending to my desire for a treat in two senses- the going out to get a treat is a festive occasion, and I’m getting the food I desire as I treat.

But I have structured in a way of portion control, I only buy one serving of the treat (okay two cookies probably is more a Jason-type serving than a Nutrition Facts-On-the-Back-of-Bag-of-Rice-Cakes-type of serving).  But it’s still portion control.

As I created the light of a new practice, the old habit of overeating at home naturally dissipated.

We often try to fix our habits by worrying and arguing about their dark aspects.  This keeps us focused on the dark.

However when we focus on creating a new exciting, positive practice to replace our Red Bandana Clad Habit and consistently employ it, the light of this practice will come, in time, to fill the space that was occupied by the old habit.

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What’s a habit that you have that you notice you would like to change?

What new exciting, positive practice could you employ to replace this habit?

What would it look like to consistently employ this new practice in this area of your life?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Know What To Do In Case Of Everyday Life

We move at many different speeds throughout the day from sitting at the computer going 0 MPH to driving on the interstate going 75 MPH.  In my youth, I loved moving slow and dawdling.  I became highly proficient at it.

Over the years, I have slowly (imagine that) discovered that in the course of daily life crisis situations requiring speed, calmness and focus often arise.  These crisis situations could be what we traditionally consider an emergency.  But much more often, they are situations that feel like a crisis as when we get exceedingly nervous as we give a performance of some type or produce a result.

Whether an actual crisis or an event that feels likes a crisis, these situations require speed, calmness and focus to manage skillfully at a time when we often feel least like being speedy, calm and focused.

 Crisis and crisis-like situations occur in the course of everyday life.  When I was younger, I avoided crisis as if it was a dirty fear-based word.  Now I realize that dealing with a crisis or a crisis-like situation is simply an opportunity that requires practice, just like learning any other new skill.

One way to practice for a crisis or a crisis-like situation is by intentionally speeding up and intensifying our lives for limited periods of time.  This way we can slowly build our Super Hero Crisis Preparedness Muscles.

Our exercise routines are a great venue for this practice. We can develop our physical fitness and our Super Hero Crisis Preparedness Muscles at the same time.

For example, just before New Years, I started taking Bikram Yoga classes several times a week.  Bikram Yoga creates a circumstance, which in many respects resembles the intensity of a crisis or a crisis-like situation.  A Bikram Yoga class lasts 90 minutes and combines a challenging exercise routine with a studio heated to 105 degrees.  I love this opportunity!  In the class, I learn how to move with the speed of the routine, as well as, how to focus and remain calm under trying circumstances.

It’s very important to select an exercise to build your Super Hero Crisis Preparedness Muscles that suits you and does not challenge you to the extent that you feel like you are in the middle of an actual crisis. For example, the sport of boxing would not be a good choice for me because I would feel very much like I was in the middle of an actual unfolding crisis as I got hit in the face.

Our Super Hero Crisis Preparedness Exercise Routine can be challenging enough that it demands our focus, calmness and encourages us to move at a faster speed than we are used to, but not so overwhelming that we injure ourselves or cause ourselves sickness as a result.

The fruit of building our Super Hero Crisis Preparedness Muscles comes when we are able to move into the crisis or crisis-like situations that daily life sometimes offers with speed, calmness and focus.  We can learn to approach crisis or crisis-like situations as opportunities to use our Super Hero Crisis Preparedness muscles.

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What would it be like to move into every crisis or crisis-like situation that daily life sometimes offers with speed, calmness and focus?

What exercise routine might you use to build your Super Hero Crisis Preparedness Muscles?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Keeping Both Our Walkie Talkies In Good Working Order


This morning, after yoga class, I was talking with a friend and noticed his Commodore 64 T-shirt.  We were both amazed to think that about thirty years ago the Commodore 64 was a hot computer.  My friend commented that now our cell phones are probably many times as powerful as that computer was.

And that is how far computer hardware has progressed.  Just think of the Internet and Google.

When I was a kid, I was thrilled to be given a set of World Book Encyclopedias.  Now with Google, I have access to millions of times the information contained within the encyclopedia set that I was so proud of.

Reflecting on this vein of thought, I am stunned to notice that as technology has advanced at a mind-boggling clip, the needs of the human body for health have stayed basically the same for the past thirty years.  We still need sleep, exercise, and sensible nutrition to stay healthy.

Good health is important for the typical reasons often cited – to feel good, to avoid sickness and the like.

Maintaining good health is also important to realizing our dreams.  Our bodies are the vehicles through which we achieve our dreams.

I’ve started thinking of my body and mind like the set of Radio Shack walkie talkies I had as a kid.  The fun is in being able to communicate clearly from one to the other.

When we maintain good health, our minds can transmit signals of abundance and our bodies can respond to this information appropriately and with enthusiasm.

Technology is expanding at an exponential rate, yet the basic needs of our bodies remain the same.  The trick is to find and consistently engage in the diet, the exercises, and the sleeping patterns that keep our bodies and minds happy and working together.  Then our results can fill us with joy and communicate clearly to the world.

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How do you currently use exercise, nutrition and sleep to create your dreams?

 What is your next step?

Freedom Is It

I used to minimize the fact that I was addicted to drinking Coca-Cola.  I would tell myself things like “I drink two to four real Cokes a day, but it’s not like being addicted to cocaine, cigarettes or alcohol.”

To me, my Cokes were a sweet addiction.  Pardon the pun.  Coca-Cola signs were red and white, strong colors and two of the three colors in the American flag. (If you consider white a color, but that is another discussion.)

Drinking Coke was just an indulgence not an addiction for me, I reasoned.  I thought that imbibing Coke was sophisticated.  It seemed so much more adult to go into a restaurant and proudly order a Coke rather than water, orange juice or, most embarrassing, an apple juice.  And I thought, for some reason that I can’t now quite fathom, that drinking Coke would impress woman.  (I was sorely mistaken, as a rule it doesn’t.)

I would get email forwards about the disconcerting concept that Coke removes rust from nails.  And concerned friends and family would advise me to quit.  But I would think, “I’m an adult.  I’m free to choose to drink Coke.”  Over the years, the advice to cease drinking my favorite beverage became stronger, and still I said, “I’m free to drink my two to three to four Cokes a day.”

Recognizing that I was free to continue to choose to drink Coca-Cola I feel actually played an important role in helping me put an end to my Coke addiction.  While my soda addiction limited my freedom, I would have limited my freedom further by pretending that other people where forcing me to give up my habit.

So for a while longer, I focused my power of choice on continuing my addiction.  Things changed when I finally decided to listen to all the good advice I was getting and focus my power of choice on creating a way to quit my habit.

This was an exciting point in my journey.  I discovered that once we freely decide we want to quit whatever we are addicted to; we have the freedom to create a way to quit.

Effective quitting looks different for different people. Some people just decide enough is enough and go cold turkey.  Some times two or more friends decide to quit an addiction at the same time and support each other through the process.   Some people read books or seek counseling to support their resolve to quit.  Some people join twelve steps programs and the list goes on.

When we decide we want to quit our addiction, we try different things and hopefully find an effective way to move past our addiction.

I was surprised to note that the benefits of successfully quitting my Coke addiction went beyond nutrition.  In finally choosing to give-up Coke and following through with that choice, I was able turn my wishes for a healthier lifestyle into effective action.

My addiction to Coke limited my ability to see what life had to offer.  While I was strongly focused on finding restaurants that served Coke, I was missing out on other aspects of life, same as if I walked around Rome looking at the sidewalks I would miss much of what the city had to offer.  When my focus was not on finding my next fountain Coke each day, I began to notice other details and activities like yoga, Laughter Yoga and eventually San Diego.   When I freed myself from choosing Coke each day, I started to free myself to live a life I deeply love.

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What thoughts come up as you read this post?