From “As Seen on TV” to “As Seen in YOUR LIFE”

Who, like me, has ever watched a person do something amazing on TV and thought, “I would love to be able to do that, to live THEIR life, BUT that success is for actors, singers and professional athletes, not for me?”

Think about the scenes from TV that inspire you, the scenes that make you go, “Yes!  I would love to do what there’re doing!”

We can gaze longingly at dreamy images on TV and view these images as from another world, a world we’ll never set foot into.

Or you can look at your TV screen as an open door inviting you to stride confidently towards your dreams.

I bet many actors, singers and professional athletes were at one time themselves watching stars on TV and thinking, “Will I ever be able to do that?”

Then they figured out a way to answer that question with a “YES!

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What do you see people doing on TV that you would absolutely love to do?

How can you make the transition from seeing these people as superstars doing things that you will never be able to do, to looking at them as role models inspiring you to achieve your dreams?

What is your next step?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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The Reason I Write The Heroic Yes! Blog

I write this blog because I have listened intently to countless teachers and learned from them.  I so appreciate what they have given me.

Could I’ve found my path of healing and transformation without my many teachers?  Hardly!

Saying that, did I always apply what I learned?  Of course not!  Some of what I learned didn’t resonate with my desires at the time.  Some seemed over my head.   Some seemed overwhelming.   Some seemed like just plain too much work.

But I applied enough of what I learned from my teachers to design my own unique way to heal and transform my life. 

I’m able to write what you are reading now because so many teachers took the time to share their wisdom with me.

The intention I hold as I pen these blogs is that they will provide you with ideas to apply to your life, ideas that will fuel your success, add to your joy and inspire you to go for your dreams.

It’s of course up to you to decide which of these ideas to apply and which to let go of, for within you, you hold the priceless knowledge of how best to create your life.

Inspiration for writing these blogs comes to me because I know that it’s possible to learn from each other.  I’ve learned from so many, and now I’m honored to pass this collection of wisdom, combined with my personal life experience on to you.

Writing is also part of my profession.  As such, I envision that these blogs will open up opportunities for me that are financially rewarding.  My intention is to be the best teacher I can be.  And just like a professor who loves to teach also earns money for his work, I need to be responsible for letting my writing become a way to draw financial abundance into my life.

Finally, I write these blogs because I love to write and I love to teach.  I love how interesting life is.  I love how many opportunities we have to learn and grow. I love how free we are to develop the skills to create our dreams.

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

How Can You Use The Money You Have TODAY To Create your Dreams?

Have you ever had the thought, “I HAVE TO WAIT to do what I dream of doing until I have more money?

Me too!  It’s tempting to wait until we have MORE MONEY, and then to go about financing our dreams.

The neat thing I’ve slowly discovered is that many dreams don’t require vast amounts of money.   This type of dream instead requires creatively using the money we have to turn it into reality.

For example, if you had asked me seven years ago how much I would have to pay to feel magnificently healthy in mind, body and spirit, I would have said, “Millions of dollars, if it’s even possible.”  And since I didn’t have millions of dollars, I thought, “I CAN’T have my dream of enjoying magnificent health.”

However, I discovered my dream of having amazing overall health through participating in activities such as Hatha Yoga, Laughter Yoga, Landmark Education and receiving massages.

AND THESE ACTIVITIES ALL ENDED UP BEING WITHIN MY BUDGET!

In fact, I now go to a yoga studio, Pilgrimage of the Heart Yoga, which has a vast number of classes every week and amazing teacher after amazing teacher.  I pay $65 a month for unlimited yoga classes in San Diego, CA.  Yes, I said $65 a month, not $650 a month.  And the $65 a month is well within my budget.

Often our dreams don’t require so much money as they do our participation.  What makes my yoga membership an EVEN BETTER DEAL is that I go to between 10 and 15 classes a week.  The more I participate in my dream of amazing overall health, the better deal my unlimited membership becomes.  Amazing!

At this point in the post, a reader, who we will call Cindy Louise, might say, “Hey, Mr. California Yoga Dude, that’s all fine and dandy about your yoga stuff, but I dream of owning a mansion. Please find me a mansion for $65 a month.”

I would say,  “You definitely have a great point Cindy Louise.  Those sixty-five-buck-a-month-mansions aren’t all they are cracked up to be.”

Then I would ask Cindy Louise what feelings she is seeking in owning a mansion.  After careful consideration, she might say in owning a mansion she is seeking the feelings of safety, beauty, peace and joy.   But at this point in her career, she can only afford an apartment.  Then I would suggest that she looks for an apartment that embodies the feelings she is hoping to find in a mansion by searching for an apartment building that is beautiful, that is on a quiet and peaceful street and an apartment where she feels joy as she tours it.

Granted the apartment that Cindy finds wouldn’t be the physical reality of the mansion she dreams of owning, but the feelings that her dream evokes can be present in the apartment she decides to rent.  And while she is renting, Cindy Louise can work towards her dream of earning enough money to buy an actual mansion.

If you’re up for an AMAZING GAME, start to see your money situation as an invitation to create, participate, and feel your dreams TODAY, instead of viewing your current financial situation as a reason to defer living your dreams until someday when you have more money.

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Think of a dream you have that you have been putting on the back burner because it seems to require money beyond what you can afford.

Is there an inexpensive way to afford this dream that you haven’t considered yet? (Like I found with my yoga membership.)  Have FUN asking around and THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX as you answer this question

Does realizing your dream require your increased participation, rather than simply more money?  (Like I also found with my yoga membership.)

If your dream involves purchasing something that’s really expensive (Like Cindy Louise’s mansion)  (And there’s no $65 a month deal insight), what feelings are you seeking in owning this expensive object?

While working to afford this expensive object, can you find a less expensive alternative that evokes feelings similar to the ones you are seeking in owning the expensive object?  (Like Cindy’s apartment.)

How can you use the money you have TODAY to create your dreams?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

Open Enough Next Doors To Open Your Dream Door

If I say it will bring you abundance, be a growth experience, be an amazing opportunity, and might even transform your life for the better to stand-up, smile, and travel three thousand miles to find a certain door, which I can only tell you is somewhere in a hundred mile radius of a certain town, but I can’t quite remember the name of that town, probably something that starts with a G or T or one of the other letters of the alphabet. And, oh I forget to mention, that once you finally find this certain door there is a very good chance it’ll be locked.  I hope you have your set of lock picks and know how to use them.  Also there might be really bad weather.  And OH there could possibly be ten Dobermans in front of the door who won’t necessarily be at all happy to see you, that is unless they are really hungry.  However, if you find this door and successfully open it, good things await.

Now are you ready to jump up and go find that door and open it?

Probably not!  More likely, uncertainty, overwhelm, fear, numbness, and even anger might arise upon hearing of this opportunity, because the good things promised on the other side of this door seem thoroughly out of reach.

However, if I say it will bring new abundance, be a growth experience, be an amazing opportunity and might even transform your life for the better to stand-up, smile, walk over to the door closest to you and open it, you would probably do it in pretty short order right?

The first opportunity that I offered you at the beginning of this post is what I like to call an ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.  The reward of this type of opportunity seems very enticing, but the steps to taking advantage of this opportunity seem either vague or overwhelming or both.

The second opportunity I offered you is what I like to call a NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY.  This type of opportunity makes a great deal of sense to capitalize on because it looks like the next logical step, as well as, being both concrete and manageable.

Sometimes our big dreams appear to us like ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITIES.  When this happens we can respond in several different ways.

For example, Thomas, a sophomore in high school, is watching the NBA Finals and realizes that he wants to be an NBA star.  Is this an opportunity for Thomas?  Indeed!  One day he could realize his dream of playing in the NBA.  However, at the moment, he has been hesitant to try out for his high school team.  Thomas can respond to the ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY that he has just noticed for himself in a few different ways:

  1. He assesses his current situation of being nervous even to try out for his high school team, tells himself, “ Wow, crazy, absurd dream, Thomas,” and then does his best to forget about this ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.
  2.  Thomas assesses his current situation.  He then becomes determined to achieve his dream, while, at the same time, becoming overwhelmed and fearful about HOW he will achieve his dream.  This approach leads to Thomas tossing and turning at night, as he wonders where in the world he can meet NBA scouts or better yet an NBA owner, so that he can convince them that he is a natural NBA player.  This approach of tossing and turning and worrying ironically leads Thomas to be less of a natural basketball player than he was before he had the dream of joining the NBA.
  3. Thomas assesses his current situation.  He decides to look for his NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY.   Recognizing his dream of playing in the NBA, Thomas becomes excited about seizing the NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY of trying out for his high school team.  He calls his friend to see exactly when try-outs are and is happy to discover that they are in two weeks.  Then he recognizes two more NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITIES, practicing everyday for the next two weeks and going out to buy a new pair of basketball shoes.  Suddenly, Thomas has three opportunities that bring him joy when he thinks about them.  And these three opportunities are tangible steps towards playing in the NBA, the ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY that Thomas wants to seize.  And not only is Thomas taking tangible steps towards his dream, he’s happy about what he is doing instead of giving up as he was in the first approach or fearful and frustrated as he was in the second approach.  (Notice Thomas didn’t choose to buy bowling shoes, practice baseball and to try out for the soccer team.  He choose NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITIES in the direction of his dream.)

Open enough well-chosen NEXT DOORS and you come to a place where you are at the FRONT DOOR to an ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.  This is your DREAM DOOR.   Simply open it and walk in.

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Think about one of your dreams that at this point seems to be an ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.

What good feeling NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY could you realize this week that would take you in the direction of this dream?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

What’s Your Basic Assumption About People?

It’s unanimous! Everyone wants you to achieve your dreams! 

Do you believe the words in the line above? If not, how would your life be different if you deeply believed the above sentence?

I pose this question because for many years my basic assumption about people was that I needed to prove to them that I was somebody.  Armed with this assumption, I used to feel driven to debate with the strong intent of proving my point, or said in another way, I used to like to just plain argue with people.  I was a pro at getting in arguments with friends and family.  These arguments were mostly of the mild variety but arguments nevertheless.

What I gradually discovered was that I was automatically assuming that people would discount me.  And when I assumed people were going to automatically discount me, I would start to argue with them to PROVE myself to them.  And when I started arguing, they would often be motivated to defend their view and discount my opinion, thereby conveniently proving my assumption that people would discount me.  (Talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy.)

All my arguments really proved was that I was good at beginning arguments.

If my basic assumption about people had been, “It’s unanimous! Everyone wants you to achieve your dreams,” would I have started so many arguments?  Of course not!  Why argue with people who wanted me to achieve my dreams?  

When we make the assumption that others are rooting for us, we offer far more respect to ourselves and everyone else.  Also believing that everyone is on our side naturally inspires us to start acting in a more positive way towards others and to minimize our arguing.  These changes in our actions empower people to be as kind and supportive towards us.

I’ve found that people are often as kind and supportive towards us as we assume them to be.

(Our general assumption about people may be occasionally disproved in practice and should not displace common sense.  We will see in the course of our interactions with some people that they, for whatever reason, definitely do not have our best interest at heart.  Then we take steps appropriate to that situation.)

Our basic assumption about other people seems to turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy, kind of like how a boomerang comes right back to us.   If this is the case, I’m all for making really super-amazing assumptions about other people and about life.

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What is your basic assumption about how people will treat you?

Are you happy with your current assumption about how other people will treat you or do you want to experiment with making a different assumption?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

Trust YOURSELF to Live YOUR Dreams!


One way to approach our dreams is to be partly excited about achieving them, while, at the same time, partly CONCERNED about how achieving them might overwhelm us and make us lose sight of what is most important to us right now.

Yet to move towards our dreams with CONFIDENCE, we want to trust ourselves to be able to discover joy, centeredness, and to really remember THE BEST OF WHOM WE ARE as we achieve our dream circumstances. 

Right now, do you trust the self that you will become as you achieve your dreams?

If not, it may well be that at the present moment you feel like you barely know this person you dream of becoming.

For example, I have realized that I haven’t been allowing myself to trust the multimillionaire I dream of becoming.  I have been telling myself things like “When I’m rich, I suddenly won’t have time for the activities I love like yoga and going for amazing walks.” (Many would observe that becoming wealthier would probably afford me more time to do what I love.)

But our CONCERNS about achieving our dreams aren’t necessarily LOGICAL.  

Basically, I have been worried that in the process of making amazing amounts of money, I will lose touch with whom I truly am and what I truly love to do.  I haven’t yet TRUSTED MYSELF as a person of great financial wealth, so I have found all kinds of ways to do things other than become a multimillionaire. (In fact, I could write a lengthy book on the things I have chosen to do other than become a multimillionaire.)

A key to achieving our dreams may well be developing comfort and trust with the person we dream of becoming.

You can begin today to think about the person you dream of becoming.  Introduce your PRESENT SELF to YOUR DREAM SELF.  Hang out!  Have a blast!  Get to know each other. Use your imagination to develop COMFORT with your DREAM SELF.

You can begin to see the person you dream of becoming as enjoying their dream circumstances, while at the same time, making decisions to also stay connected to what you most love now.

In your imagination, you can begin teaching your dream self to RESPECT your core values.

At the same time allow the conversation to be mutual.  Allow your dream self to begin teaching you about ENJOYING and EXPANDING into your DREAM CIRCUMSTANCES.

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What is your next step in developing a vibrant friendship with the person you dream of becoming?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

Are You “BUT-ing” Heads With Your Dream?

Have you ever had a thought that sounded something like, “WOW! I have this amazing dream, BUT here is why it won’t happen”?

I sure have! I have thought things like, “I want to be a highly successful writer, BUT I’m disorganized and undisciplined.”  “I want to be a highly successful public speaker, BUT I have a speech impediment.”

I want to be this, I want to do that, BUT I’m not worthy for such and such reasons.

BLAH! BLAH! BLAH!

I call this type of thinking “BUT-ing” heads with our dreams.  (Picture two rams butting horns, trying to see who’s the toughest.”

Have you ever started “BUT-ing” heads with one of your dreams?  How did it feel?  Who won?

But wait just a minute here!  How do we come to be “BUT-ing” heads with our dreams?  If our dreams are the reality that we want to live into, why are we abusing them by “BUT- ing” them?”

What I discovered through much trial and much error is that in all of this “BUT-ing” we are doing, we can confuse ourselves and begin to feel unworthy of our dreams coming into reality.

AND THIS IS JUST OUR “BUT-ing” TALKING, NOT THE TRUTH!!!

Maybe we could try building our “Dreams Coming True Worthiness Muscle” instead of our “BUT-ing” muscle.  (I know how it sounds AND, though funny, that is not what I mean.)

Picture two kittens lying close together and purring with delight.  This is how we want to be with our dreams, purring with worthiness and delight every time we think of them.  

Building our “Dreams Coming True Worthiness Muscle” is like building any muscle.  It takes practice, practice, and more practice.  (But when the practice is purring and feeling worthiness and delight, doesn’t it sound fun?)

Look for evidence of your WORTHINESS.  Focus on the COMPLIMENTS you receive from others.  Become your own POSITIVE SELF-TALK GURU.

So let’s all start our “Dreams Coming True Worthiness” workout today.  (And this workout doesn’t even require breaking a sweat, just BURSTING WITH DELIGHT.

SO COME ON NOW, LET ME HEAR YOUR PURR!

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Build your “Dreams Coming True Worthiness Muscle”.”

Look for evidence of your WORTHINESS.

Focus on the COMPLIMENTS that you receive from others.

Become your own POSITIVE SELF-TALK GURU

Burst with DELIGHT.

PURR!

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.