This Election Year Vote Yes!

I noticed this week that at the same time I started thinking about which presidential candidate I will vote for in November, I also started getting upset and putting down the other presidential candidate in my mind.  So then I started thinking about how the wisdom people exhibit when they use toothpaste could be of use to us in an election year.  (If you have no idea how toothpaste relates to picking our candidate, I will expand.)

This is what I mean.  Think about the toothpaste a guy named Jake chooses to use each morning.  Jake already has the tube of toothpaste, so this means he has weighed the pros and cons of this toothpaste versus other brands of toothpaste and chosen to pick this one.

Each morning Jake simply says, “YES” to the toothpaste he has chosen.   As he brushes his teeth, he doesn’t spend time thinking about why he said “NO” to other the brands of toothpaste.  Jake doesn’t spend his morning getting frustrated and angry at the other brands of toothpaste for not being good toothpaste.  Rather, Jake simply brushes his teeth with the toothpaste he has chosen and then goes on with his day.

The brands of toothpaste that we CHOOSE NOT to buy won’t get our teeth clean.  Only the toothpaste we purchase and brush with will.

In the same way, once we’ve weighed the pros and cons and chosen our candidate, further thinking about the reasons we dislike the other candidate is like spending time each morning contemplating why we dislike the brands of toothpaste we are NOT using.  Such thoughts don’t help us feel good.

Further, such thoughts may even make it more difficult for us to be of support to our candidate.  Can you imagine if you asked someone why she liked her toothpaste and she spent the next hour telling you why she disliked another brand of toothpaste?  At the end of the hour, you might have literally forgotten which brand of toothpaste she actually liked.  You might even be inclined to go out and buy the brand she disliked because after listening for an hour you feel that you at least know something about that brand.

This election year, may you weigh the pros and cons, and then really choose to focus on casting a confident and positive YES vote for whichever presidential candidate you have chosen.

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How can the ideas in this blog be of use to you during this election year?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

Choose Your Level of Participation With Your Cravings

So often when I’m in the midst of one of my cookie cravings, I have such a strong desire for that next bite that I feel powerless not to take that next bite.  For example, there are these monster cookies at a local bakery that I often (read ALMOST DAILY) have a strong craving for.  When I bite into these soft, perfectly sugary cookies, it’s as if CRAVING MOMENTUM has over-taken me.

At times, we feel that we have no other options than to give into our cravings.  This can be an overwhelming feeling because we feel trapped in acting a certain way, trapped in giving into CRAVING MOMENTUM.

I’m prone to eat two cookies really fast without much thought, losing sight of the fact that I’m CHOOSING to take THE NEXT BITE and then CHOOSING to take THE NEXT BITE and then CHOOSING to take THE NEXT BITE.

When I stop to think about it I realize that in fact I’M CHOOSING to take many consecutive bites.

NOW recognizing that I’m choosing to take the next bite of cookie doesn’t automatically mean that I will choose to stop taking bites of cookie.  I might still CHOOSE to take bite after bite of cookie.   But if before each bite, I discipline myself just enough to pause for a second to recognize that I CHOOSE to take that next bite, suddenly I have more control and power over what I’m doing.

We feel powerless around our cravings whereas our CHOICES give us freedom.  Once we realize our cravings are in fact a collection of many CHOICES, we can CHOOSE to engage in the activity we had called a craving or we can CHOOSE not to engage in this activity.  The CHOICE is suddenly up to us because WE HAVE GIVEN OURSELVES THE POWER to CHOOSE.

When we put ourselves in charge of our lives, we give ourselves the opportunity to make CHOICES  I’m not saying that giving yourself a CHOICE automatically makes it easy to quit a habit you have wanted to quit.

(In fact, I’m still CHOOSING to participate with my craving for those monster cookies.)

But realizing that you have a CHOICE suddenly puts you in the driver’s seat of your CRAVING MOMENTUM TRAIN. You put yourself in the position where you can realize that you have the freedom to make decisions about your level of participation with your craving.

This realization gives you the option of eventually CHOOSING to no longer participate in your craving.

My level of participation with my monster cookie craving is my CHOICE.  Your level of participation with your craving is your CHOICE.  We are THAT POWERFUL!

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How will you CHOOSE to use the ideas in this post?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

Open Enough Next Doors To Open Your Dream Door

If I say it will bring you abundance, be a growth experience, be an amazing opportunity, and might even transform your life for the better to stand-up, smile, and travel three thousand miles to find a certain door, which I can only tell you is somewhere in a hundred mile radius of a certain town, but I can’t quite remember the name of that town, probably something that starts with a G or T or one of the other letters of the alphabet. And, oh I forget to mention, that once you finally find this certain door there is a very good chance it’ll be locked.  I hope you have your set of lock picks and know how to use them.  Also there might be really bad weather.  And OH there could possibly be ten Dobermans in front of the door who won’t necessarily be at all happy to see you, that is unless they are really hungry.  However, if you find this door and successfully open it, good things await.

Now are you ready to jump up and go find that door and open it?

Probably not!  More likely, uncertainty, overwhelm, fear, numbness, and even anger might arise upon hearing of this opportunity, because the good things promised on the other side of this door seem thoroughly out of reach.

However, if I say it will bring new abundance, be a growth experience, be an amazing opportunity and might even transform your life for the better to stand-up, smile, walk over to the door closest to you and open it, you would probably do it in pretty short order right?

The first opportunity that I offered you at the beginning of this post is what I like to call an ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.  The reward of this type of opportunity seems very enticing, but the steps to taking advantage of this opportunity seem either vague or overwhelming or both.

The second opportunity I offered you is what I like to call a NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY.  This type of opportunity makes a great deal of sense to capitalize on because it looks like the next logical step, as well as, being both concrete and manageable.

Sometimes our big dreams appear to us like ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITIES.  When this happens we can respond in several different ways.

For example, Thomas, a sophomore in high school, is watching the NBA Finals and realizes that he wants to be an NBA star.  Is this an opportunity for Thomas?  Indeed!  One day he could realize his dream of playing in the NBA.  However, at the moment, he has been hesitant to try out for his high school team.  Thomas can respond to the ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY that he has just noticed for himself in a few different ways:

  1. He assesses his current situation of being nervous even to try out for his high school team, tells himself, “ Wow, crazy, absurd dream, Thomas,” and then does his best to forget about this ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.
  2.  Thomas assesses his current situation.  He then becomes determined to achieve his dream, while, at the same time, becoming overwhelmed and fearful about HOW he will achieve his dream.  This approach leads to Thomas tossing and turning at night, as he wonders where in the world he can meet NBA scouts or better yet an NBA owner, so that he can convince them that he is a natural NBA player.  This approach of tossing and turning and worrying ironically leads Thomas to be less of a natural basketball player than he was before he had the dream of joining the NBA.
  3. Thomas assesses his current situation.  He decides to look for his NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY.   Recognizing his dream of playing in the NBA, Thomas becomes excited about seizing the NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY of trying out for his high school team.  He calls his friend to see exactly when try-outs are and is happy to discover that they are in two weeks.  Then he recognizes two more NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITIES, practicing everyday for the next two weeks and going out to buy a new pair of basketball shoes.  Suddenly, Thomas has three opportunities that bring him joy when he thinks about them.  And these three opportunities are tangible steps towards playing in the NBA, the ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY that Thomas wants to seize.  And not only is Thomas taking tangible steps towards his dream, he’s happy about what he is doing instead of giving up as he was in the first approach or fearful and frustrated as he was in the second approach.  (Notice Thomas didn’t choose to buy bowling shoes, practice baseball and to try out for the soccer team.  He choose NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITIES in the direction of his dream.)

Open enough well-chosen NEXT DOORS and you come to a place where you are at the FRONT DOOR to an ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.  This is your DREAM DOOR.   Simply open it and walk in.

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Think about one of your dreams that at this point seems to be an ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD OPPORTUNITY.

What good feeling NEXT-DOOR OPPORTUNITY could you realize this week that would take you in the direction of this dream?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

Friday One Minute of Excitement

What could you tell yourself in one minute that could inspire you?

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Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

On The Days when Opportunities Knock With Overwhelming Force And There Is Just Too Much To Do

Some days the opportunities that other people offer us seem to cascade down on us with amazing force.  These are wonderful days, days when our ship has come in and days of easy abundance.

These are the days when instead of three new clients calling, fifteen call; instead of one job offer you get five; instead of a few friends calling you, twenty call you.  They say, “When it rains, it pours” and on these days it DOWNPOURS.  These are days of AMAZING OPPORTUNITY after AMAZING OPPORTUNITY and there are so many of them, ALL AT ONCE.

We can at once be both VERY APPRECIATIVE of these days AND, at the same time, THOROUGHLY OVERWHELMED!!!   On these days, we often feel like we are spread too thin.   Each opportunity seems to require a certain amount of attention, but we don’t feel able to give any of them the full amount of attention they desire.

Suddenly even though we are surrounded by abundance, we are utterly stressed out, exhausted and miserable.

Suddenly, all these new opportunities don’t feel like an adventure or even a blessing but a very uncomfortable and out of control situation.

So frustrating!  What to do?

OPPORTUNITY OVERWHELM can turn into a huge obstacle because there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in a day for us to accomplish all that we need to accomplish.

The great news is OPPORTUNITY EASE can be CREATED out of OPPORTUNITY OVERWHELM.  I say CREATED because each opportunity comes to us in a certain package.

The opportunities that other people offer us naturally come in an OPPORTUNITY PACKAGE designed by them.  Often included in the opportunity is an idea of how much time we should devote to it and when we should devote this time.  (It’s interesting to note that these specifications are actually part of what makes an opportunity an exciting opportunity, rather than a vague “I want to do something with you someday” opportunity.)  However, these same specifics that make an opportunity an exciting opportunity can also lead to OPPORTUNITY OVERWHELM.

OPPORTUNITY EASE comes when you work with the person who gave you the opportunity to show him or her that you appreciate the opportunity being offered, while at the same time, working with him or her to revise the specifics of the opportunity so that the specifics don’t overwhelm you.

Think of your opportunities as water and your day as a glass.  Say a full glass symbolizes the maximum amount of work you can do in a day while being focused, productive and happy.  Now you want to schedule your opportunities to fill your glass to full but not overflowing.   Over-scheduling will lead to more water than your glass can handle, a mess, waste, and exhaustion.  So the art-form is knowing how full you want your glass on at daily basis and then revising the specifics of the opportunities people offer you together with them, so that your glass is not overflowing or too empty, but filled with just the right amount of abundant opportunities to grace your days.

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How could you create more OPPORTUNITY EASE in your life?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com. 

What’s Your Basic Assumption About People?

It’s unanimous! Everyone wants you to achieve your dreams! 

Do you believe the words in the line above? If not, how would your life be different if you deeply believed the above sentence?

I pose this question because for many years my basic assumption about people was that I needed to prove to them that I was somebody.  Armed with this assumption, I used to feel driven to debate with the strong intent of proving my point, or said in another way, I used to like to just plain argue with people.  I was a pro at getting in arguments with friends and family.  These arguments were mostly of the mild variety but arguments nevertheless.

What I gradually discovered was that I was automatically assuming that people would discount me.  And when I assumed people were going to automatically discount me, I would start to argue with them to PROVE myself to them.  And when I started arguing, they would often be motivated to defend their view and discount my opinion, thereby conveniently proving my assumption that people would discount me.  (Talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy.)

All my arguments really proved was that I was good at beginning arguments.

If my basic assumption about people had been, “It’s unanimous! Everyone wants you to achieve your dreams,” would I have started so many arguments?  Of course not!  Why argue with people who wanted me to achieve my dreams?  

When we make the assumption that others are rooting for us, we offer far more respect to ourselves and everyone else.  Also believing that everyone is on our side naturally inspires us to start acting in a more positive way towards others and to minimize our arguing.  These changes in our actions empower people to be as kind and supportive towards us.

I’ve found that people are often as kind and supportive towards us as we assume them to be.

(Our general assumption about people may be occasionally disproved in practice and should not displace common sense.  We will see in the course of our interactions with some people that they, for whatever reason, definitely do not have our best interest at heart.  Then we take steps appropriate to that situation.)

Our basic assumption about other people seems to turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy, kind of like how a boomerang comes right back to us.   If this is the case, I’m all for making really super-amazing assumptions about other people and about life.

Game of the Day

What is your basic assumption about how people will treat you?

Are you happy with your current assumption about how other people will treat you or do you want to experiment with making a different assumption?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.