Friday Minute of Excitement

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Brush Up On Your Own Brilliance

We spend a few minutes in the morning and at night brushing our teeth.  Why not super charge this time by looking into a mirror that reflects your best self?

For much of my life, I treated the bathroom mirror as something to avoid eye contact with and ignore.  As I brushed my teeth, I would walk around the bathroom or gaze down at the sink (as if what I might see in the sink was somehow more important than what was awaiting me in the mirror.)

I was basically avoiding eye contact with myself.  (This habit didn’t do much for my appearance.  Let’s just say that I have had some bad hair months and even an occasional bad hair YEAR.)

Have you ever avoided eye contact with yourself?

Now think of your good friends.  Can you imagine making a habit of avoiding eye contact with them?  This would be somewhat odd to say the least!

I’m proud to announce that recently my mirror and I had a relationship break-through.  And we have sticky notes to thank.  Who would have thought?  What happened is I started writing declarations on sticky notes that reflect the power of my best self and then lining my mirror with these declarations.  For example, one of the sticky notes on my mirror says, “I intend that ALL of my relationships around money be ones of joy.”  Another says, “I’m amazing and what people see in me is my brilliance.”  A third says, “My voice is sexy and perfect.”

These celebrations on a sticky note are powerful because they reflect the best of who I can be today and, at the same time, challenge the limiting views that I have had about my life in the past.

What are some declarations that you could put on sticky notes that would reflect the best of who you can be today and, at the same time, challenge your limiting views about your life from the past?

Now I must say that my mirror immediately warmed up to the attention that I was showering upon it and started reflecting back my own brilliance.  My mirror and I are suddenly in bliss and the relationship is so mutual. (But then again, a relationship with a mirror is probably always mutual.)

I leave the center of the mirror clear so I can see the smiling face of the star of the show – me.  For most of my life, I would’ve thought it incredibly vain to think, let alone write, that I’m “the star of the show.”

But think about it, if you are not the star of your own life, who is?

You can build a relationship of bliss with your mirror.  And it is SO quick and easy.  As you are inspired simply write down declarations of your best self and outline your mirror with them.  (If you have housemates, invite them to get in on the game, so that you each have some sticky notes on the mirror.

Then in the precious minutes when you brush your teeth, read your notes and get a super-charge from reflecting upon them and feeling the power of your own brilliance.  Then look at yourself, the star of your own life, and practice getting a super-charge from reflecting upon the amazing person that you are and the amazing life you lead. 

I say practice, because like with many great friendships, your super-charged friendship with your super-charged mirror can take some time to cultivate.  But brushing up on your own brilliance is well worth it!

Game of the Day

How do you feel about creating a brilliant relationship with your mirror?

What is your game plan?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Happiness Now Creates Ever After

Kids love their first bike with training wheels.

Then, in time, youngsters grow to the height and skill level where they love riding ten-speeds.

But if as kids they had strongly disliked their first bike would there be much of a guarantee that they would one-day love riding a far bigger bike?

So deepen your love for your present circumstances whatever they may be.

Envision a line of happy circumstances extending into your future.

Start right now.

Claim your present circumstances and love them unconditionally.

Achieving your dreams won’t make you happy.

It’s up to you to make the dreams you achieve happy.

Today is today.

Make it happy.

You can create your hours and days as happy.

You are the Happy Hours of your life.

Game of the Day

How can you be happy in this moment?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Instead of Working Hard All Day, Work Nice and Easy

A few centuries ago, before the railroad, pioneers with covered wagons had to WORK HARD to get from New York to LA.  Between tending the horses, hunting for food, finding water, pioneers were exceedingly busy people.  (Did pioneers actually ever travel directly from New York to LA in covered wagons?  I have no idea.  We may be talking about hypothetical pioneers, but please work with me for the sake of this example.)

These pioneers could indeed say we are lazy for flying across the country instead of hitching horses to a covered wagon.  But we still gladly choose to fly across country in under six hours, instead of enduring months of hard, risky work in a covered wagon.  In choosing to book a flight instead of hitching-up horses, we are choosing to WORK NICE AND EASY.

I say we choose to “work nice and easy” instead of we choose to “work smart” because our pioneer friends were very smart.  They had to know how to tend horses, how to navigate a nation (without the aid of Google Maps) and how to survive (as in how to avoid being eaten by grizzly bears and the like).  Successfully accomplishing these tasks arguably took more skills than whipping out a boarding pass and walking down a jet bridge.  So the pioneers were working very smart but still very, very hard.

I’m thinking about the concept of WORKING NICE AND EASY because I’ve noticed that sometimes I’ve worked hard mostly to feel like I’m a hard worker.  I’ve worked hard at busy work.  I’ve worked hard at doing things very inefficiently.  Sometimes, I’ve even worked hard at doing things the “old fashion way,” as I avoided the technology that would make the job five times as fast.

This is all CRAZY!

Unless we simply want to engage in the activity of working very hard, why not do a little PRE-WORK before we actually work? Why not first spend some time choosing well-thought out work, work that has a high potential of being useful, work that gets us from point A to point B in a very efficient manner? 

Now I’m not suggesting we take short cuts that compromise the quality of our work.  Our planes still have to traverse the same distance as the pioneers’ covered wagons did.  To take a plane is not to take a short cut but simply to make wise use of the options available.

Taking a plane versus a covered wagon is a very dramatic and obvious example of the wonder of WORKING NICE AND EASY.

It can be very rewarding to discover both dramatic and far subtler ways of WORKING NICE AND EASY.

If you still desire to feel like you are working hard, you can even say to yourself (and other), “I’m working hard at WORKING NICE AND EASY.”

Have an amazing day of WORKING NICE AND EASY!

Game of the Day

What ways can you WORK NICE AND EASY at home?

What ways can you WORK NICE AND EASY when you are at work?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Brilliant Waiting

This afternoon I drove to get my car washed.  I figured that it would take maybe 10 or 15 minutes tops to do the inside and out.  The attendant who greeted me offered me the Manager’s Special and said it will take AT LEAST HALF AN HOUR to get my car done.  NOW I DID NOT FIND THAT SPECIAL.  I mean I was already OVERWHELMED with everything on my TO-DO LIST, and let me tell you, waiting an extra FIFTEEN minutes WAS NOT ONE OF THE ITEMS ON MY LIST.

(By the way, the words in caps equal drama in my head.)

Do you ever have those days where you are overwhelmed and just feel that you don’t have an extra 15 minutes?

In that moment, I realized I had a BUSY DAY ahead of me and that I already felt WAY BEHIND and now to get my car the way I wanted it, I had to wait 30 MINUTES or more with NOTHING TO DO.  Let me define nothing to do: I didn’t have my calendar. I didn’t have my notebook.  I didn’t even have text messages to catch up on and it was in the middle of a workday so not even a good time to call people. I mean I had NOTHING TO DO!

 Have you ever been in this situation?  How did you handle it?

Well, THIS WAS A PREDICAMENT.  My first thought was, “How can I get out of this one?  Should I drive home quickly and get something to work on?”  No, that would take even more time.  Then I thought, “Oh, good, they have a gift shop, I can just buy a notebook and write.   SO I CAN AT LEAST BE DOING SOMETHING.”  But guess what?  Their gift shop was a NOTEBOOK-LESS GIFT SHOP.  And to make matters worse, there weren’t any other promising NOTEBOOK ABUNDANT stores close by.

How would you spend a half hour or more at the car wash with nothing to do?

I considered more options.  In the waiting area, there were free magazines to read or there were greeting cards I could peruse in the gift shop.  But neither option seemed to be PRODUCTIVE.

So, with nothing else to do, I took a seat on a bench out by where the cars come out when they are done and JUST SAT AND WAITED.  For the first five or ten minutes, simply waiting was kind of hard.

Then I began to really notice where I was.  Now I thought I already knew where I was.  I was at a car wash on Pacific Highway JUST WAITING.

But in another way, I realized that I had no idea where I was.  It had been a frustrating blur in my busy day.

Gradually I began to notice the blue sky and the fact that the Big Bay of San Diego was shimmering a block away.  There was a cruise ship dock down there.  Palm trees swayed in the wind close by.

And suddenly I noticed how glad I was to have the luxury of sitting and waiting with nothing to do.  I was literally in paradise. But until I sat down with nothing to do, I hadn’t noticed.

The place I was became beautiful because I sat and noticed it.  Was it beautiful before I sat and noticed it?  Sure it was, but I wasn’t aware of it.

My car wash experience has got me thinking.  Maybe success in life is as much about pausing to notice the wonder of where we are at right now, as it is taking the actions to be successful.

Maybe part of getting ahead is simply noticing how far ahead we are and pausing to appreciate it.

Game of the Day

How will you really notice where you are today?

How will you appreciate where you are today?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

Honoring the Opportunity To Talk With a Friend (When You Feel Down)

Having a conversation with a friend when you feel down can be a highly rewarding experience for both you and your friend.  This conversation is an amazing opportunity to honor your friend by celebrating the fact that you trust them enough to confide in them.

From my experience with this type of talk, I’ve found that there are a few things to keep in mind so that this conversation can be a strong positive experience for both of you.

  1. Honor your friend’s schedule (if possible)- Sometimes, when we are feeling down, we tend to call our friend with the intention of talking about how we are feeling right this minute.  This strategy can be hard on our friend because they are often already in the middle of doing something.  So it’s probably most effective to schedule a time to talk.  Scheduling a time to talk helps insure that our friend is in a place to give us their full attention.  And it also allows us to collect our thoughts and become clearer as to what we want to talk with our friend about.  (The exception to scheduling a time to talk is if you really feel you are in an emergency situation.  Then call your friend and say, “I am in an emergency situation, can we please talk now.)
  2. As you talk to your friend, honor their listening by expressing how you are feeling honestly and clearly.
  3. Express emotion to your level of comfort.  Do this in such a way that you are expressing how you feel, and at the same time honoring the safety of both you and your friend.  This means that you are focusing on releasing your painful emotions out into the open air rather than directing them towards your friend or back towards yourself.  Think of your emotional energy as releasing from you like smoke from a chimney.  You want this chimney to go straight up from you, so that you are not smoking out your friend or coughing on your own smoke.
  4. When your friend offers a comment, listen closely to them and to your reactions to what they are saying.  Listen for the light at the end of the tunnel.
  5. If you feel like you really just need to express your sadness and frustration, be clear and say.  “I want to express my sadness and frustration right now without focusing on ways to feel better.”  Cues like this let your friend know how to best help you, and also help you maintain your focus on what you are feeling, instead of becoming frustrated and nitpicking about how your friend is responding to you.

These are a few ideas to keep in mind the next time you feel down and reach out to talk with a friend.  By reaching out with respect, you honor both your friend and yourself and create a nice atmosphere for a healing conversation.

Game of the Day

What will your approach be the next time that you are feeling down and reach out to a friend?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.

What The Heck Cleaning the Bathroom Has To Do With Achieving Your Dreams

Think of your big dreams.  At this moment, what do you have a better idea of how to do?  How to wash your laundry and sort your mail or how to achieve your big dreams?   

Asked another way, which activity are you more likely to complete today, cleaning out your car or climbing to the pinnacle of your career?

We often tend to let the common everyday tasks that we know so well go undone because they can seem to take too much time, to be too boring, to be beneath what we are capable of.

Why fold underwear and clean our shower when we are focusing on being a millionaire?

We could adopt the motto that life is too short to vacuum, dust, clean the windows and take out trash.

Or we could celebrate these simple activities that make our living spaces look, smell and feel so good.

These simple activities also provide us with a sense of accomplishment and a sense that we are capable of ordering and creating our world.

Our dreams involve the same things, ordering, creating, accomplishing.

What would it be like, rather than thinking of cleaning the bathroom as a major drag, if we thought of it as practicing the same skills we need to achieve our dreams?

Game of the Day

What do you get that is of use to you from reading this blog?

How will you apply it?

Jason Freeman is a professional writer, and a one-of-a-kind public speaker.  He is the founder and CEO of Heroic Yes! Productions. Jason has an MFA in Poetry from the University of Nebraska.  He knows the pain of perceiving one’s life through a lens of limitation and also the thrill of moving beyond that mindset.  For more information on Jason’s powerful message, or to book him to present to your organization, go to www.HeroicYesProductions.com.