Once and awhile, we want to get away to that special place, be it an island in the middle of the ocean or some hide-away in the woods to relax and recharge. But the vast majority of the time we are participating in our daily lives at our homes, at our work places, in our neighborhoods, on our commutes. These are the locations familiar to us and the locations where being able to relax and be productive at the same time will make the most difference.
Being able to relax in the typical situations of our daily lives gives us the focus to produce the results we want, gives us a manner that attracts friends and colleagues, and puts us in a state of mind to appreciate and celebrate the results we achieve.
On the other hand, I have learned from years of first hand experience that anxiety narrows our vision, and makes us forgetful of our talents. For many years, I was tight in my body, so my view of the world was constricted and inflexible in many senses.
Before I wrote this post, I consulted my powerful friend Dan Johnson who also happens to be a premiere massage therapist and a Certified Laughter Coach. He suggested the word “myopic” based on the ideas about stress that I was describing. The word myopic made me think of the blinders that are sometimes put on either side of a horse’s eyes during parades so that a horse can only look straight ahead. This helps the horse not to be spooked.
Dan was right in using the word myopic to describe how I felt when I was stressed, which I find very ironic because I have always prided myself on being open-minded. While I may have been open-minded much of my life, I had a myopic focus on many fears and frustrations and my body responded by being tense and constricted.
People used to advise me to “just relax.” I wasn’t able to fulfill on their request. I would think about relaxing and that I should relax, but I just was unable to efficiently do it. It was as if I had blinders around my eyes that focused my attention on my tension. When someone told me to relax, it was like they lifted my blinders. However, I was used to focusing straight ahead on my tension. I couldn’t begin to understand how I might gaze into the periphery of what I was experiencing and discover a life of relaxation.
Slowly, I recognized that to feel more relaxation in my daily life, I needed to develop the skills to relax my body on a daily basis.
Unfortunately, there is no exact prescription for relaxation. If there was, I would have taken lots of it in junior high. Many methods of creating relaxation in our daily routine exist. Belly breathing, which I talked about in yesterday’s blog, may be one of the simplest places to begin a journey towards being more relaxed and at the same time maintaining productive lifestyle. Beyond that, ways of calming your mind that work for you and an exercise routine that you love can make a world of difference. The trick and game is to find what works for you so that you can enjoy productive relaxation on a daily basis.
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Where are you now in the adventure of being productive and relaxed at the same time?
What is your next step towards further strengthening your ability to be productive and relaxed at the same time?